Slut-Shaming.


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POP QUIZ! 

Scenario 1: After going through a tough breakup, Todd decides that he is over relationships and from now on and will only partake in “hook-ups.” Every night he brings a new girl home, and never bothers to call them after he gets what he wants. His goal is to “bag” 20 girls by the end of the semester.

Scenario 2: Chelsea is heart-broken, she just recently found out that her boyfriend of 2 years has been cheating on her with her best-friend. She’s soooooo over relationships and honestly just wants to let loose and have fun with different guys every night.

  1. Which person will be labeled a slut/whore?

If you answered Chelsea then you are CORRECT!

It’s sad right? Both people are engaging in the same activity, yet one of them is receiving all of the heat for it. This ladies and gentlemen is slut-shaming and it really only happens against women. According to wikipedia slut-shaming is “a form of social stigma applied to people, especially women and girls, who are perceived to violate certain traditional expectations for sexual behaviors.”

Although it has a new name, slut-shaming has been around for hundreds of years. Let’s throw it back all the way to 1850, the year that Nathaniel Hawthorne’s ‘Scarlet Letter’ shook the American colonies. Almost every American teenager was forced to read this book sometime in their pre-collegiate career, but if you don’t know what it is about, here’s a brief summary… There’s an affair and the woman is blamed for everything and then exiled. Basically Hester Prynne is slut-shamed. Rather than blame the two people involved in the affair and condemn them both for their sin. The town council puts all the blame on Hester, as if she had the affair with herself.

If this fictional example isn’t good enough for you, here are some real life examples. Monica Lewinsky, Amber Rose, Marilyn Monroe, and probably any girl that ends up reading this article has been slut-shamed.

Women are condemned every single day for things that men are applauded for.  If a man has multiple sexual partners he is considered a stud, a “playboy”. He gets a pat on the back from his homeboys. When the roles are reversed, the narrative is not at all the same. If a woman expresses herself sexually like a man, she not only receives criticism and insults from men but also from other women. Because in our society women are expected to stay at home and be “good” while the man can do whatever he wants, right? The woman must remain pure, and wait for her knight and shining armor to finish his playboy/fun years and then come fetch her.

Even in situations of sexual-assault or rape where the woman has absolutely no say or choosing in what is happening to her, society still seems to find a way to make it her fault. She shouldn’t have been dressed that way, she was drinking too much, boys will boys, maybe she should have closed her legs. The amount of times that I have seen/heard this reasoning, this victim-blaming, is absolutely disgusting. Since when are these valid excuses?

Society needs to take a step-back and really think about the way that we treat our women. It seems that we take one giant step forward in women’s rights just to turn around and take 5 steps backwards.

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